Lindsay Arnold talks about her experiences as a Mormon during her childhood.

Like so many reality TV viewers, Arnold has seen Hulu’s The Secret Life of Mormon WivesThe show follows eight Mormon influencers, known as MomTok, who are active in the Mormon Church or live close to the church’s teachings.

“I didn’t even know if I was going to comment on this,” Arnold begins her video.

“I’m a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, also known as a Mormon. I’m also a mother. These are some of my thoughts, some of my takeaways from the show – I’m someone who has been in reality TV for almost 11 years of my life.”

Arnold explains that while the church has been a “very positive” presence in her life, she understands that “we all have our own individual experiences of how these things affect our lives, affect our views, and just affect everything that makes us who we are as human beings.”

“While I see that the church has brought light and positivity into my life, I understand that this is not the case for everyone, and I feel that this is true for every religion, culture or family. My experience is not someone else’s experience and vice versa. I am not here to take away someone’s experience or their voice when it comes to how something has personally impacted their life,” she acknowledges.

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The professional dancer then addresses some of the common reactions to the show that people have shared with her. Arnold notes that she has “never matched blue coats with anyone in church,” referring to the promotional photos that show the women in matching blue pea coats outside a Mormon church.

“The other funny thing that I almost died over and got so many DMs about was the whole laughing gas during Botox thing,” she says, referring to the women who talk about how laughing gas during Botox is a loophole “high” for Mormons.

“I’ve had Botox injections so many times. My father and sister are both cosmetic injectors and they never gave me laughing gas. I never got it. Most of my friends who get Botox injections haven’t gotten it,” she says.

“So that must have been something really special and unique about that place. But I just thought it was so funny how they made it such a big deal, like we were all getting laughing gas and getting high. I mean, that sounds great, good for them, but that’s definitely not a universal experience.”

The women of Mormon women often say they are frustrated because their conservative upbringing made them feel subordinate to their husbands. This is another point that Arnold distinguishes from her own experience.

“Growing up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I never felt like I was raised to be a stay-at-home mom to my husband and kids. I felt like my parents were the biggest drivers of my professional dance career. There was never a moment where I said, ‘Lindsay, you need to stay home and just be a mom because that’s your calling,'” she says.

“Personally, I have never experienced anything less than my husband, who is also an LDS, always supporting me in pursuing my career and goals. He is literally the biggest supporter of everything I have ever done. I also grew up in a family where both parents worked. They both supported me in my passions and my aspirations were always supported.”

Arnold wanted to make it clear to the public that she holds on to her beliefs: “That’s not how I was raised. That’s not what I believe in.”

“It’s not like I’ve been going against what I’ve been taught all this time. I’ve had full support in everything I’ve wanted to do from my husband, my family, the leaders of my church and the people around me.”

She emphasizes that others may have had different experiences and says that she is not criticizing but rather acknowledging the other side.

As a reality TV star, she has appeared in both So you think you can dance And Dancing with the Stars — Arnold said: “I have learned a lot from this experience and I believe I can give some insight into how some things used to happen.”

She admits that she met “almost all of the girls personally” while living in Utah and that she “didn’t have any negative experiences with any of them.”

“I think it was obvious that people were picking villains. They were picking their favorites. They were picking people who would raise warning flags and just jump to their assumptions about each person, and not without reason. I’m not going to say that some serious things didn’t happen for people to believe, but I want you to understand that that’s exactly what the producers of this show wanted,” Lindsay says.

Arnold explains that reality TV is about entertainment and that the entire show’s crew works to achieve that goal. “People want to see drama. They want to see fights. They want to see all the things that we got to experience on the show.”

“I’m not saying it’s not real, but I want to point out the background,” she continues, using examples of how a situation can be manipulated through editing.

“Obviously at the end of the day you don’t have to do anything, it’s up to you to decide, but if you think that everything on reality TV is real, then that’s just not the case… if you spend time behind the scenes of reality TV, you can see how the narrative can actually be spun in so many different directions. I think it’s important for us all to remember that.”

Arnold says that while there are people who are upset about the show, she found it entertaining.

“Just like I would never judge anyone for their experience in church, I hope people can’t judge me, and just like I understand that not everyone has a positive experience in church, that doesn’t mean I can’t have a positive experience,” she concludes. “And I hope we can all see that, and that’s basically all I have to say about it.”