Lyle and Erik Menendez are serving two consecutive life sentences without the possibility of parole for the murder of their parents, José and Kitty Menendez, in 1989.

But their personal lives have evolved. Both have been married since their murder convictions in 1996 and have spoken about their marriage in interviews, as have their wives.

“I ask myself questions,” Tammi Menendez, who has been married to Erik Menendez since 1999, told Dan Abrams of MSNBC’s “The Abrams Report” in 2005. “Everyone asks me questions. You know, ‘Is she crazy? Is she crazy?’ It was a very emotional experience.”

Neither brother is allowed to receive conjugal visits, the LA Times confirmed for Lyle Menendez and MSNBC for Erik Menendez.

Who is Erik Menendez’s wife?

Tammi Ruth Saccoman and Erik Menendez began corresponding while he was in prison.

“We became very close through letters and then when I met him the relationship developed further. But through the correspondence he became a really good friend of mine and understood what I was going through and I understood what he was going through,” she told MSNBC.

She wrote about their relationship in her self-published memoir, They Said We’d Never Make It: My Life with Erik Menendez, which served as the basis for the 2010 A&E documentary Mrs. Menendez.

Tammi Menendez told People that she initially had doubts that Erik and his brother had been abused by their parents. That was also the argument of her defense during the first trial in 1993, which ended in a failed plea agreement. During a second trial in 1995, which took place before a single jury, the brothers’ evidence of abuse was not admitted. Both were sentenced to life in prison.

Tammi Menendez changed her mind in 1996 when she learned that her husband had abused their daughter, his stepdaughter, since she was 15, she told People. Tammi’s husband turned himself in to police and committed suicide two days later, leaving Tammi to care for her nine-month-old child.

“I turned to Erik,” she recalls. “He comforted me; our letters became more and more serious.”

But she told MSNBC: “I didn’t plan on having a relationship with Erik; it just happened.”

Erik Menendez proposed to her in a prison visiting room and in 1999 the two married in the waiting room of Folsom State Prison.

Tammi Menendez told MSNBC she is in contact with a psychologist who is helping her explain everything to her daughter.

“She loves Erik,” she said. “She likes to visit him. She … wants to see him every weekend. And he is very nice to her and very friendly and very sweet to her.”

In a 2005 interview with People, Erik Menendez discussed the impact of marriage on his life in prison.

“Tammi’s love was an important step in my life decision. Having someone who loves you unconditionally, someone you can be completely open with, is good for everyone. Knowing that this person loves me for who I am,” he said.

He said their marriage changed him. “You can’t imagine what it was like to never hear ‘I love you’ for the first five years in prison. It makes you a cooler, tougher person. Tammi’s love has made me a better person. I want to be the best husband I can for her. And that influences the decisions I make every day in prison,” he said.

Both have explored how a marriage can function without intimacy.

“Tammi taught me how to be a good husband. There’s no make-up sex, just a 15-minute phone call, so you really have to try to make it work,” Erik Menendez told People.

“It’s very difficult,” Tammi Menendez told MSNBC. “But I get emotional support from Erik. He’s my best friend.”

TODAY.com has reached out to Talia and Tammi Menendez for comment.

Who are Joseph Lyle Menendez’s wives?

Lyle Menendez found his first bride, Anna Eriksson, the same way Erik did: through letters.

Born in Chicago, Eriksson began modeling for Lord & Taylor as a teenager, then began modeling in Europe in the 1980s, she told People in 1996.

She told the publication that she wrote a letter to Lyle Menendez during his first trial with the message “Stay tough.”

They began corresponding and grew closer when Eriksson moved to LA. “All I can say is that we built a connection, even though we never touched,” she told People.

Robert Rand’s “The Menendez Murders,” which inspired the new Netflix series about the brothers, describes their 1996 wedding, which took place by telephone and was described by Erik Menendez’s lawyer Leslie Abramson as a “proxy wedding.”

“Since you are not here in person in Leslie’s office right now, I will say that at a later date, you will place the wedding ring on Anna’s ring finger and you, Anna, will place the ring on Lyle’s ring finger,” the judge said. Abramson placed the ring on Eriksson’s hand.

Rand, who attended the wedding ceremony, recalled in the book that Eriksson called Lyle Menendez a “guardian angel.” Lyle Menendez said it was the “best day” of his life.

A year later, the couple separated. The LA Times reported that the California Department of Justice did not recognize the wedding and that their marriage was not a “legal marriage” because it was performed over the phone.

Lyle Menendez then married Rebecca Sneed in November 2003, NBC News reported at the time.

In 2017, Lyle Menendez spoke to People about his marriage to Sneed.

“We try to talk on the phone every day, sometimes several times a day,” says Lyle. “I have a very stable, committed marriage that gives me stability and brings me a lot of peace and joy. It is a counterbalance to the unpredictable, very stressful environment here.”

He said his wife had to endure “a lot” from “judgmental people.”

“But she has the courage to face the obstacles. It would be easier to leave, but I am deeply grateful that she does not,” he said.